Neglect
Neglect happens when a caregiver consistently fails to meet a child or young person’s basic physical or emotional needs. Unlike other forms of abuse, neglect is about what does NOT happen, rather than what does.
It can look like:
- Lack of emotional attention, warmth, or support
- Not having enough food, clean clothes, or medical care
- No guidance, boundaries, or protection
- Being forced to grow up too fast (parentification)
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Neglect is never your fault. Your parent/caregiver is responsible to provide your basic needs. Neglect is a form of abuse, even if no one ever hit or yelled at you.
How it can affect you
How it can make you feel:
- Invisible, unimportant, or forgotten
- Lonely or emotionally empty
- Ashamed for needing help or attention
How it can affect your thoughts:
- “I shouldn’t need anyone.”
- “My needs don’t matter.”
- “I have to handle everything myself.”
How it can affect your behavior:
- Becoming overly independent or emotionally distant
- Difficulty asking for help
- Struggling with structure, routines, or school
- Taking care of others while ignoring yourself
Possible long-term effects
- Difficulty recognizing or expressing needs
- Problems with attachment and relationships
- Low self-worth or chronic emptiness
- Burnout or emotional exhaustion later in life